Okay, I don't intend on bashing Geminis here but I really need some valuable insight. I'm trying to understand my best friend who's a Gemini, and apparently quite a two-faced one (as much as I hate to admit or say this), so please I expect some reasonable answers, not any insults, or rants, blames or whatever.Basically. Here it goes:1. I moved to England this year in April to live with my fiance. I wanted to let my best friend know so I sent her a couple of messages about me leaving and wanted to speak to her in person about it as well.. BUT she ignored me completely and never replied nor commented on this. I felt a bit disturbed because to me it was a huge matter but she ignored it.. and I suppose, in a way, it hurt me.2. Then about 2 months JUST before her b-day she finally came around (not in person though but on the internet because that was the only way we could speak considering the distance). Note that this is not the first time she's ignored something about me & popped up WAY later when the issue was no longer nearly as important. So, as always, she sent me a very cheerful e-mail with lots of compliments about my photos, looks etc (not sure if she was just being kiss-ass or what) which actually sounded quite believable. Her excuse was that she was "soooooooooooooo unbelievably busy" when I had to move away. She also claimed she never received any of those text messages I had sent to her mobile when I had arrived in the UK (like yeah right, my phone said she got 'em, and I doubt I got the number wrong, she's had the same number since). I think she just ignored them as well and deliberately just didn't reply out of whatever reason (again, she's done this before like when I had told her about my news of my fiance visiting me in my country, she never commented). But ok, back to the oddly cheerful e-mail she sent me - she also acted surprised about me being in England (which was kinda pathetic because I know she had heard about it and seen it on one of the forums that we both posted on because she does tend to read what I write everywhere and sort of stalk me yet ignore me at the same time, lol, acting like she's actually "away being busy" cause her life is so cool). One thing I know is that she absolutely loves England so I assumed she might've been bit jealous perhaps? But anyways, she should've at least said goodbye in person I think.. regardless. Alright, so apparently she had been super duper busy again doing who knows what and of course, expecting an immediate reply from me. See, this is what bothers me about Geminis.. that they go away with the faeries every now and then sort of "leaving you guessing" about them or what the hell they're up to that they have absolutely no time to even think of you, and then one sunny random day they re-appear out of nowhere with sooooo much to talk about (to "catch up" on as they call it) and expect you to reply instantly because if you don't then you're just being bitchy in their opinion or suddenly they are now deeply offended when they seem (SEEM is the word, I'm not saying it's for sure because they do confuse me a hell of a lot) to delibaretly ignore me to the point of me thinking what the hell, did I do something? What I kind of found especially odd with her is that I saw her online very often at the same time as me. I mean, she could've said hello at least way sooner but no, she always needed to ignore my presence, so instead she only spoke to othes but not me. Yet she DID look at my profile, pics of England and stuff. Like.. what the?3. Okay, so me being the impulsive, hopeless airhead that I am of course replied to her e-mail because I admit I had missed hearing from her and I admit I was also eager to hear what on Earth had kept her SO busy, lol. Then it took her about 2 days to reply back. She also came on msn and spoke to me like... A LOTTTT...... O_o and... disappeared again RIGHT after her birthday was over (and still hasn't spoken to me much) and I had bought her a present and everything because I thought we got along again and were back to best friends and thought that maybe she really, really had been that busy with her life. 4. Okay, so like I mentioned, I had bought her a profound present with the little money I had and wished her loads of happy b-day and everything, since I was unemployed (I just got a job a few days ago.. man, was that a long time of no friggin food and money!) I couldn't afford sending it over to her country. I was frustrated about it, and still am, because I love making gifts to people. But because of lack of money her present is now extremely be-lated. =( Anyways, I should get money by the end of this week to actually, FINALLY, send it off to her country. 5. Now, here's the weird thing. On her birthday I had told her I had gotten her a prezzie but couldn't afford sending it to her. At one point I thought I could since I got a little cash until I realised it was more reasonable to buy food instead. But since theBut since then she hasn't really spoken to me. The only time she said anything was on the day she flew to Ireland. She had sent me a text message telling me how excited she was and what she was gonna do etc etc and promised to come to my birthday party in England to which I had invited her, and of course the predictable part - asked me to reply to her ASAP. Well, as much as I would've liked to, I couldn't. I had no credit as I had no money. So no reply from me this time (cause usually I always reply to her things). And boy, was she even more ignorant with me later on although she had promised to tell me everything about her trip and that we had "much to catch up on" again once she'd get back home. Well, as expected, she of course never did that. O_O 6. So she came online after she arrived back home, uploaded all these vacation pics and everything. Was online, came on msn and when I happened to be on at the same time she didn't say hi again. You might wonder why I didn't say hi myselfWell, simple: because even if I had, she would've ignored me because I just know her tacts now cause she's done that many times before. 7. Finally, on my birthday in September (yes, I'm a Virgo) I got a word from her but that was only because I had sent her a disappointed e-mail saying: "It seems like you've forgotten about my birthday.. I understand your busy all the time but at least you could've also let us know you weren't coming over to England because we were expecting you. And if you think I never got you a present then I did but you know I never had money to send it over, so instead, I kept it here with me cause I thought I'd give it to you when you're over here in person. But seems like you won't be coming. Would've been polite of you to just say no in this case so I'd know whether to send it off or not when I get the chance." And WOW, she replied to that on the same day! lol. So she said she had spent soo much on her Ireland trip that she had no money left for my birthdaything (but then why promise to come? I don't get it) and that it's so expensive (yeah, I don't blame her for that..) and she was busy again etc etc. She also admitted she didn't have a present for me (there wasn't any apparent reason there though, she probably just thought I purposely never got her a present and prolly thought she'd do the same back.. because she does seem like a "get back at ya" person) and promised she'd get me one ASAP. Well.. it's October and I still haven't gotten anything. It's not like I demand a present from her but it's just a bit hurtful when every time she's always gotten me something but this time she's being so weird with me and I don't know why. Oh, by the way, here's what she said to me: Happy birthday!You are such a shiny,beautiful person,amazing but not without mistakes and bad traits of course,person and i wish that more people would see that!". "but not without mistakes and bad traits of course"<---- I know I'm not perfect but I don't understandwhat's so necessary about saying that to me on my birthday? Again, I don't get her. She could've just said "happy birthday" you know. That part was just totally randomly put into the sentence. It's weird, it's like she says such an amazingly nice and sweet compliment yet inbetween the compliment she throws this totally unnecessary remark about me having flaws as if saying "you're so nice but then again you're not". Ugh.. maybe I'm just over-analyzing things since I'm a Virgo (and yes, sometimes I hate it) but she is (or was) a very important person in my life and my best friend! And I want to know why she's like that lately. She never was this way when we were younger.8. Impulsive me replied to her saying "Yay! I'm so glad you didn't forget. I'm sorry for assuming that."But she hasn't replied. And I've got no present. And she hasn't spoken to me AT ALL again. In that birthday message she also said her internet connection didn't work yet I've seen her online lately.I know this is a VEEERY long message but obviously I'm frustrated and confused with her. So basically, do you guys think she's just ignoring me? Like I've noticed when I upload some party pics, she always uploads some even crazier pics and sounds like an Irish wannabe everywhere now cause when I say "I like this English thing", she has to like something too but something totally opposite of me and it always has to be something I have never heard of, lol, something that's like really cool or whatever. Like once I stated on a profile that I like the taste of Vodka since I'm Estonian, then she put "Hates: vodka, among other things of course. What I love: Guinness and Scottish Whisky." lol. Somehow, strangely, I feel a sense of rivalry from her attitude and I don't understand how that ever originated as we were such close friends in the beginning and there were NO issues whatsoever, no jealousy, no two-facedness, no bitchy behaviour, no competition, not any of that teeny nonsense.I always knew I could trust her with everything including my life but now I find myself hesitating and trying to understand her. I know, it sounds like a love-hate relationship I suppose.Should I just ignore her back then? I'm just tired of how she always is gone and only talks to me when SHE wants to or is interested until she is bored or god knows and buggers off again. She obviously doesn't see the error in her ways either since she never apologises for ignoring me for months and then popping up again, then disappearing again, then popping up.. on and on and on. Same dead-end cycle. When I send her a message, she ignores. When she sends me, I must reply. Perhaps I should just do like she does? Be "extremely busy", too busy for her best friend and have such a totally, busily crazy eventful life like she seems to have.I won't be surprised if in about 2 months she'll return again with "we have to catch up on things now" and express an urge to talk to me A LOT before shedisappears and does the same thing over again (oh and, it always involves ignoring me when she's "away" despite the fact that she's like on at the same time as me somewhere, lol).Seriously. I don't get her anymore. >_> And I seriously dunno if that's just what Geminis tend to be like. Well, I've heard that they HATE being ignored but yet they seem to do that to others, or at least she does anyway. Perhaps I should just do what she does: get a life (lol, not that I don't have one but you know what I mean), ignore her, and not reply to her instantly. Wait a couple of days after she's messaged me after being like 2 months away and ignoring me.. and reply to her 2 months later instead and be like "oh I was so busy it's crazy". Because otherwise I'm starting to feel like a fool.
